Sometimes discussed in terms of a “mirror soul” or “soul connection”, a twin flame is the other half of your soul. It is theorized that a soul can split into two after ascending to a high frequency. Thereafter, the soul lands in two different bodies.
Source: thelawofattraction.com
The Twin Flame topic is quite controversial in the spiritual community. One side sees it as one’s ultimate romantic relationship, while another side of the spectrum observes it as toxic. Here at BGWM we are in the middle of the debate.
Let’s break it down with a basic definition: A twin flame is a type of soulmate in which your souls are essentially “separated” or split at birth, producing two physical beings (male and female or maculine and feminine energy). The twin flame relationship is said to be tumultuous because you are eachother’s “mirror” and that can be hard to deal with.
Stages Of A Twin Flame Relationship:
First Stage: The Meeting
This initial stage is when you first lock eyes with and meet this familiar soul you have been yearning for. Words can’t explain, but it feels as though you’ve known them your whole life. They are seemingly perfect, and tick ALL the boxes. The circumstances in which you meet could be very strange and synchronistic, almost like an unbelievable fairytale. You could actually receive a premonition or your intuition telling you someone special is about to arrive in your life. In my own twin flame journey, I actually had a dream of him the night before we met, I saw him in spirit before I met him in the physical!
Second Stage: Falling In Love
Due to the strength of this connection, you and your twin flame will fall in love very quickly. Milestones “regular” couples may take six months to achieve can be done in as little as two weeks with this type of partnership. All you experience is bliss; your twin says and does the perfect things, you both enjoy the same music, movies, and hobbies. You think the same thoughts, finish each other’s sentences, and may even share a telepathic communication. You feel as if you have finally found your “other half” that society has been talking about. In my own experience, we talked at every second of the day because we were so fascinated by one another.
Third Stage: The Runner And Chaser
This stage is a very scary to endure. The “mirror” becomes larger and larger and everything stored in you and your twin gets exposed. You are reflecting each other’s fears, traumas, and are ultimately huge triggers for each other. This leads one half of the twin flame pair to give up, and essentially run, while the other chases them to figure out where things went wrong and repair the bond. The runner is running away from themselves because they weren’t ready to face their unhealed wounds. Imagine your best friend ignoring, ghosting, and avoiding you for no apparent reason. In my own experience, my twin flame was scared and freaked out by the intensity of the connection, he avoided me and gave me one-word answers whenever I attempted to reconcile. I felt confused, disrespected, and my self esteem levels were at an all time low.
Stage Four: Surrender
In this time, the chaser accepts what is happening and decides to let go. They release all the desperate attempts and behaviours in trying to control the situation. While they may still live in the unknown and “what if” frame of mind, they have peace. Some chasers even begin other relationships during this time. This is truly a transformative time and many chasers use it to work on their self-esteem, self-love, and healing traumas. Personally I’ve used this stage to develop my spiritual abilities further and also do more soul searching to figure out if what I wanted in my past is really what I want. I discovered that I clung on to the “twin flame” concept so much, I had to let it go. I also realized that this person (twin flame or not) was detrimental to my growth, so I had to release him.
Stage Five: Reunion
This stage is where both parties have done the work on themselves and are in a better space to continue a healthy relationship. However since twin flames share a soul connection, their souls travel together, so they may not reunite in this lifetime, but maybe the next.
Note that it is common to mistake a person as your twin flame especially if the connection is strong. Always take care of yourself first, and if you should experience this connection with someone, think before you act and protect your heart.
